faq

these questions were forwarded to me by a reader who wishes to remain anonymous. most of them have already been answered elsewhere on this blog, but i thought it'd be worthwhile to try answering them all.

"1. When did you get clitoridectomized? Where did the procedure take place? Who did it? What kind of anesthesia was used?"

my clitoris was removed as part of my neutering at age 36, two years ago. it was done in my home, by a nurse friend. no anesthesia was used.

"2. What was removed? Was your clitoris removed at the root ("crura"), as opposed to severing the shaft?"

the entire clitoris was removed, along with its hood and my inner labia.

"3. How did you become aware that you wanted to be circumcised? Were there any life events and circumstances that influenced your awareness (including media coverage of female circumcision in developing countries)?"

as a girl, i dreamed of having a smooth body, like a barbie doll. long before i knew what the clitoris was for, i dreamed about not having one. there are no specific events that i can point to.

"4. If one of your intentions was to eliminate orgasm, what was your relationship with orgasm that made you want to give it up?"

i have never had an orgasm, in my entire life, and i have never desired one. one of the reasons for removing the clitoris was to ensure that any capability i may have had for orgasm was permanently destroyed.

"5. Have you found it to be the case that lack of external genitals means freedom from excess sexual thoughts and arousal (possibly because the physical sexual stimulation doesn't exist in the first place to cause them)? If not, how do you deal with sexual frustration and tension? Is masturbation now a thing of the past?"

i have been asexual for my entire life. i have never had sexual thoughts or arousal. there is nothing left for me to masturbate, even if i wanted to, which i don't.

"6. Do you consider yourself a submissive, and are you a part of any SM group or community? Or was your clitoridectomy part of intermarriage or adoption of another culture?"

i am not a submissive, not into bdsm, and my neutering was not done for cultural reasons. it was my decision alone.

"7. How does your vulva look like now? If you don't have any pics of your own, which pics in the femcirc groups can you link/refer to that are the most similar to the way you look now?"

it is completely smooth with a faint, well-healed scar that blends smoothly into my skin, giving the appearance that i never had anything there at all. i have a very tiny hole to pass urine.

"8. Have you successfully persuaded other women to undergo circumcision, or was this mostly personal for you? What is your position on whether women in general should do it? Do you consider yourself a pro-clitoridectomy evangelical?"

this was entirely personal for me. i have not persuaded any other women and do not intend to. however, my position is that circumcision, infibulation and neutering should be available on demand and without apology to any woman who freewillingly chooses it. i absolutely do not support forced circumcision of anyone for any reason.

"9. How did you find the femcirc groups? Did you do a regular Yahoo Groups Search, or were you referred from another web site? Are you aware of any web sites outside of the Yahoo femcirc Groups the main topic of which is voluntary clitoridectomy, and are in support of it (besides Cutclit). Do you have or will you have a personal web site of your own in which you address questions such as these?"

i found some groups through google search, and those linked to additional groups. i do have my own blog dedicated to my life and experiences as a neutered human being.

"10. Which points would you like to make to others about your experience that are not covered above?"

everything i have done was right for me. i make no claim that it's right for any other person. but i knew that i had to become sexless and genderless to be happy. my happiness now is the proof that my decision to be neutered was a good one.